Are You Feeling Stressed? Out of Control? Overwhelmed? Cont’d
If you are experiencing any of these symptoms mentioned, you are stressed and could well benefit from Celine’s personal face-to-face sessions.
So, what these stress criteria mean is that mentally, when you have not fully expressed your needs, or have suppressed how you really feel, various destructive chemicals are released in the body/mind and these continue to erode your internal organs…. until you do something about that. This is what creates disease.
Did you know:
a. 95% of ALL disease, dis-ease, failure and non-success is stress-related (Bruce Lipton, The Biology of Belief)
You are not unlucky that you have contracted some disease like diabetes, stroke or arthritis. You are creating the disease yourself.
There are very few diseases that are passed down genetically such as the brachia gene in certain types of breast cancer, Huntington’s disease, Cystic Fibrosis, Type 1 Diabetes… and
so on.
b. Stress is cumulative
c. Unless and until you deal with the real cause of your stress, those hidden underlying issues that are emotionally based, and do not deprogram and reprogram your conscious and unconscious minds, you will never ever be truly successful long term, because how you are responding to stress now is an habitual response.
When I talk about deprogramming and reprogramming your brain…
specifically, what I mean, is, that it is around understanding what your deeply-held, intrinsic emotional needs are. These are based on strongly-held core beliefs.
Through observation and experimentation, Lipton came to that conclusion. So, pretty much everything and anything we do as humans can be stress-affected.
When we talk about those unmet emotional-based needs, when these needs remain unmet, this creates your emotional stress. Hence unmet and unexpressed needs form the basis of all your successes and failures in life. Because they affect how you feel about yourself and your worth. Your value. When you devalue yourself, this affects your self-worth.
As a human, emotions and feelings are the language of your spirit to your body/mind. The stress comes from not being able to express how you feel or have felt in the past, and this affects how we respond to stressor triggers.
Each experience or event that a child experiences needs expression.
Coming back to the fact that stress is cumulative.
If you do not express yourself, what you need, and how you feel about that issue, you will store that unexpressed emotion within the body/mind and any repressed emotions will add to that initial storehouse from the original event, which can lead to inflammation and disease over time.
This means that we store each unexpressed emotion on top of each other. This can build enormous tension in the body/mind. And. This build-up, if not expressed, can be the cause of many of our ills.
Mostly we are able to contain these pent-up emotions till around the age of 40. However, if we are not able to release the effects of those negative emotions, they eventually build up and can cause dis-ease as well as disease. So, necessarily, you need to be able to dissipate this build-up tension.
The needs I am talking about specifically include:
a. Safety: safety/trust – you must feel emotionally safe in your environment to be able to express who you really are
b. Love: you need to feel that you are loved and are lovable
c. Significance: you need to feel significant – that you are respected, that you matter… by others
d. Belongingness: you also need to have feelings of belongingness and need to feel connected to groups, tribes, environments
Safety as a basic emotional need
If, when in the womb the child experiences parents constantly fighting – they will not feel safe in that environment when they are born.
If the mother constantly expresses regret about not wanting a baby, or wanting a particular sex baby, the child will not feel safe.
If after the child is born and the child is constantly admonished, punished or neglected in some way, the child will not feel safe.
So, when a child experiences these types of things they will form core beliefs such as:
I will never be safe and be accepted for who I am.
I don’t feel safe in this environment or any environment.
It is not safe to be me.
To feel loved and lovable as a basic emotional need:
As for the need to feel safe, if the mother constantly criticizes the child about any aspect of their physical being, e.g. you are getting fat, you are not attractive, or you are a naughty child… the child will never feel unconditional love from the primary care givers.
So, when a child experiences these types of things they will form core beliefs such as:
I am not lovable
I will never be loved
I do not deserve love
Significance as a basic emotional need:
If the mother does not affirm to the child how happy she is that the child is in her life, that the child adds value to their family group, that the child has admirable qualities – the child will never truly feel that they are important, respected or that their presence matters in that family.
So, when a child experiences these types of things they will form core beliefs such as:
I do not matter in this family
I do not deserve to be seen or heard
No matter what I do I will never be important
Belongingness and connectedness as a basic emotional need:
If the primary care givers do not welcome the child unconditionally. If they do not include the child in their family decision-making. If the parents do not create a loving family dynamic – the child will never feel they truly belong to that family, and later in life have trouble feeling that they fit in in various environments.
So, when a child experiences these types of things they will form core beliefs such as:
I will never fit in
I don’t deserve to fit in
I will never feel I belong anywhere
So, you now can see how if a child’s needs remain unmet, self-expression, self-esteem, and their self-worth will be an on-going issue throughout life.
The child devalues themselves based on the beliefs they have formed about themselves, and what and how they expect others to treat them. This is all based on the evidence they have had in their early developmental years.
So, for the rest of their lives, the child will be seeking ways to have those unmet needs met. Unfortunately, this can cause on-going issues throughout life, especially in relationships.
Hopefully, that gives the reader a better understanding of the role of unmet needs in our quest to manifest our desires.
The literature describes when a person’s needs are not met. This can lead to feelings of:
– Resentment
– Anger
– Confusion
– Disappointment
– Frustration
– Hopelessness
– Irritation
– Sadness
– Loneliness
– Embarrassment
So, necessarily, communication gets a lot easier if we fully understand what our needs are. In essence, when needs are not met, a deficiency in one of those needs ‘causes a clear adverse outcome’. These innate needs are required for a ‘safe, stable and healthy life’
Intrinsically, our human needs and wants demand satisfaction.
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